REFLECTION QUESTIONS

from the process of

‘Reviewing Patterns of Relating’ in the fourth Group

 
 

These questions, as always, invite you to reflect on your own behaviors, strategies and assumptions.

This facilitates the subject to object shift (as outlined in the video on How we grow in Stages video from the first group). It expands your scope of choice, enhancing your capacity for perspective taking, generating insight and ultimately engaging in adaptive change.

Devote at least 30min to answering these questions, adopting a stance of open curiosity to expand your field of awareness:

  • What was it like to give and receive views on patterns of relating?

  • In giving your views did you notice any tendencies to avoid being direct, overly direct or closed to the others’ feelings? If so, what assumptions were you making that led to these tendencies?

  • In giving your views did you notice any tendencies to analyse the other or give well meaning unsolicited advice?  If so, why was it important for you to go beyond simply offering your views? What assumptions did you make? Did you check them?

  • In receiving others views did you notice any tendencies to stray from listening and asking questions to understand? If so what got in the way?

  • In receiving others views, did you notice any tendencies to withdraw or emotionally distance yourself , justify yourself in any way, dismiss the other internally? If so, what were the external triggers? What were the internal assumptions?

  • What are your conclusions about your ways of relating in groups – what it allows and what is risks? What would you like to build on, to cultivate, to let go of?

  • What are the key takeaways for you to be mindful of in your role as a leader of adaptive change, as a game changer?

  • What do you intend to pay attention to and practice in the group going forward?

How Big We Are

“The number of stars visible to unaided human vision, in clear air on a moonless night, is at best a few thousand. Ten octillion, on the other hand, the number of atoms within us, is about a million times the number of stars in the entire visible universe. In that very concrete sense, a universe dwells within us”

Frank Wilcezk (awarded the Noble Prize in Physics in 2004) from his most recent book Fundamentals: Ten Keys to Reality